“When I was 5 years old, my mother always told me that happiness was the key to life. When I went to school, they asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up. I wrote down ‘happy’. They told me I didn’t understand the assignment, and I told them they didn’t understand life.” John Lennon
1. Forgive yourself for not accepting yourself completely
You and I both know that there are many people out there who aren’t really happy with who they are and what they are, who always criticize themselves and always compare themselves with others. We will never be happy if we continue living our lives this way, and before we can even consider changing the way we think and the way we perceive ourselves, we need to learn how to forgive ourselves for all the time we spent ignoring our own beauty and our own greatness.
2. Forgive yourself for constantly seeking approval in all the wrong places
It’s never too late to start seeking for approval in the right place, it’s never too late to start getting approval from the right person, which is YOU! All the approval you will ever need is your own approval and not the approval of those around you. For so many years you have lived your life believing that if THEY like you and if they praise you, you are worthy and if they don’t, well, if they don’t there must be something wrong with you, and maybe you should try even harder to get their attention and validation.
You spent so much time and energy trying to be something you were not, trying to fit in and trying to be like everybody else, you thought that it was the right thing to do but now that you know better, it’s time to forgive yourself.
“Look within. Within is the fountain of good, and it will ever bubble up, if thou wilt ever dig.” Marcus Aurelius
3. Forgive yourself for thinking you are not good enough
Thoughts have creative power. Your beliefs were created based on your thoughts; acting on your beliefs you eventually created you own reality. The life you are now living is the result of all of those thoughts and all the choices you made so far based on your beliefs. Realize this truth, accept it and forgive yourself for those many times when you didn’t consider yourself good enough.
“Compassion, forgiveness, these are the real, ultimate sources of power for peace and success in life.” Tenzin Gyatso, The 14th Dalai Lama
4. Forgive yourself for your past mistakes
The past is long gone, you can’t change it, you can’t change what once happened to you. Only by understanding this truth you will be able to release yourself from the prison you’ve locked yourself in. There are no mistakes, there are lessons that life taught you and it’s better to see them as lessons than mistakes in order to be happy with your present life. Forgive yourself for your so called past mistakes, let go in order to be happy, let go and move on.
“Inner peace can be reached only when we practice forgiveness. Forgiveness is letting go of the past, and is therefore the means of correcting our misperceptions.” Gerald Jampolsky
5. Forgive yourself for all the judgments you’ve placed on yourself and others
I really love how Mother Teresa of Calcutta spoke about this: “If you judge people, you have no time to love them.” Forgive yourself for all the judgments you’ve placed on yourself and others and shift your focus and attention from blame, criticism and direct it towards love and forgiveness, for others and yourself.
6. Forgive yourself for giving up on your hopes, dreams and goals
Decide that it is time to forgive yourself for giving up on your big, bold and beautiful dreams because you see, the irony is that by doing so you will actually allow yourself to start all new and to no longer look for faults in yourself and your past. This will allow you to be fired up with how your future will look like and to actually reclaim your dreams and work on making them become reality.
“You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream.” – C.S. Lewis