However, over the past two years, my family and I have embraced living a healthier lifestyle and I’ve started to question the need for medical intervention during delivery. I mean, this is what my body is supposed to do, right?
Heather had an all-natural birth, meaning no epidural, no Pitocin, or any other drugs. She said, “My birth was a powerful experience. When I recall it, I don’t remember pain. Instead, I remember the contractions increasing in intensity. I recall becoming one with my body, letting it guide me, listening, breathing, focusing, and enjoying every moment of the journey. It was just me and my focal point, a woman of seven chakras made of clay sitting to the right of me. The birth process was an exercise in energy and awareness of indescribable activation. I remember being calm throughout and loving every moment…there were no screams for mercy, no unbearable pain, no fear, just love, love for the process that was bringing the son I carried in my womb into my arms.”
See, I told you, butterflies and fairies.
My vision of labor is not quite the same as Heather’s. My vision of labor is PAIN. A cantaloupe coming out of a straw (impossible, right?). However, after becoming more educated on the subject, I find it harder and harder to believe that my body needs drugs in order to complete a job that it was specifically designed to do. In contrast to Heather’s experience, I’m not interested in the ‘oohs and aahs of a beautiful journey.’ Instead, I see it as a job to be done and to be done well. That means that in order to complete the mission, I have to prepare my body for it. You cannot expect to run a marathon after no training. The same can be said for delivery, drugs or no drugs.
In addition to a balanced diet, one of my preparatory tools for delivering naturally has been participating in Bradley Method classes with local doula Kimberly Davis. The Bradley Method teaches that delivery is an athletic event. It specifically prepares your mind and body for a natural birth. It engages and exercises those muscle groups that play an active role in labor. Therefore, I have a daily regimen of squats, kegels, pelvic movements, and more as part of my body’s physical training for delivery. But, I’m not alone in this training. Partners are just as important in the delivery process as the mother and the Bradley Method teaches them how to be mom’s biggest supporter, cheerleader, coach, and gatekeeper. Your partner is your biggest ally in the delivery room.
Besides the physical aspects, the mental aspects of delivery are just as important. For example, I have a very low tolerance for pain, which leads to fear which leads to tension which leads back to pain. I’m learning how to confront and control my fears rather than letting them control me and causing unnecessary pain during delivery.
Now, I don’t expect to have a pain free delivery. That’s not the goal (and it’s just silly to think so). I expect to have a manageable delivery where there are intense pains that we can work through. Yes, plenty of people think I’m quite crazy, but I’m actually excited about allowing my body to tell me what to do.
With all that being said, in no way do I believe that those who choose or must have medical intervention deserve any less praise for the delivery process. Birthing a baby is hard work.
So, NOLA moms, what has been your experience with natural or non-natural delivery?
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